Things That Help Me Relax (Revised)

Hello all my lovely readers and bloggers! I hope everyone is having a great and/or relaxing weekend.

The hubby and I are taking our Saturday off to do nothing, but get some down time and relaxation in. (well other than laundry which I have to do fairly soon here. Blah!) I thought it would be a great time to revisit and re edit my favorite things I do to relax or that helps me with things like my anxiety. This was recently shared in early January on my older blog, but I think this post will be helpful to share here and another way new readers can get to know more about me. I also still am at a loss with my writing so yes I have been trying to remain somewhat active by going through old posts. I love a lot of my old posts I wrote for my other blog and I am trying to transition a lot of them here. I kinda figured while my writing is kinda amiss why not use this time to share a couple or few.

I am currently waking up with a nice warm cup of coffee as I write this. So grab your favorite drink, pull up a comfy chair etc and get relaxed with me because this post is all about relaxing!

In today’s dedicated post I will be sharing my favorite things or things I do to relax when I am needing to distress or am very anxious. I will be listing them in bullet point form, because if you can’t tell by now I like my lists. xD So here we go!

My Favorite Things I Do To Relax (In order: #1 being my favorite. Well I am going to try my best to organize them into some order from my favorite to the ones I do the least or what have you. Some I do as much as the other, depends on my mood, but still love the same and so on. But this is a general list. :))

#1 Music

As most of you know I have a very deep passion for music and it is my drug, religion etc. Music is enjoyed by many people and is known to be able to alter moods, inspire and even save lives. Music is my life line and in a way it may be more so than some.

It is not just one of my favorite hobbies, but it is the one thing I always turn to when I need to calm down or regain control over my emotions and feelings. It is one thing that no matter how anxious I am or stressed if I listen to music in one form or another it will always instantly relax me. I spent a lot of time just sitting and listening to music with my earphones or blaring it in the house. It also becomes the background of my many other hobbies such as playing The Sims, phone games etc. I also sometimes even write lyrics (which admittedly I haven’t done in quite some time unfortunately.) Most of the time music becomes the main focus of whatever I am doing. I can’t even explain where my passion of music comes from. I know part of it stems from my childhood as my parents always played music in the house, but I think it is deeper than that. Also has something to do with being a very lyrical person which I am. 99% of my music playlists, songs etc consists and must have lyrics. Maybe has to do with my creativity of writing or it speaks to me? I don’t know. Music has been there for me when no one else was or I felt alone, and it has saved my life literally many times. I am one of those crazy people who cannot live without it.

#2 Back rubs or any kind of massages/rubs from my husband.
This one most definitely stems from my childhood as my parents would rub my back every night to help me fall asleep after reading me a bedtime story or two. Even though I am very sensitive to touch and can be even be bothered by being touch, back rubs always will relax and calm me down. If it is not calming me down and draining out the anxious thoughts in my head, it is putting me to sleep. It is one thing that has always helped me feel calm and secure. I am so happy I found my hubby to do this for me as I missed it since a child. Hehe. I really need to look into getting one of those massage chairs in the future so my hubby can get a break once in awhile. The only problem with that however is I’d probably live in that chair and never leave it, so many hours in my day would be wasted. Haha.

#3 Hot Shower and/or Bath
Bath with bubbles, music and candles is like pure heaven. It is one of the most relaxing things I always did growing up, especially at the end of a long stressful day. However, we currently do not have a bathtub in our space, but is a must have when we look for a new place. Until then, I have settled for a hot shower, which can also be very relaxing and take my mind off things temporarily or give me a much needed break in my days etc.

#4 Hot cup of tea or hot chocolate
As much as I love coffee in the morning to help me wake up it causes me to be a lot more anxious, so I often enjoy making a hot cup of tea or hot chocolate to relax. Especially a cup of tea adds a sweet relaxing bonus to some of my favorite hobbies like watching a favorite show/movie, playing video games and especially writing. Whatever it may be, both these things go well with just about any relaxing activity or hobby.

I have a huge white cup with blue on the inside and it reads tea that my parents got for me a few Christmas’ ago. They said I drank so much tea that this humongous mug reminded them of me. Haha. It is also great for coffee (two cups in one) or hot chocolate etc. However, it’s still back in Canada as my parents are holding onto the stuff I haven’t been able to go back and get since moving to the USA. I can’t wait to get all my stuff and use that cup again. Until then I have to settle for a more average size cup so I normally just have two cups at once. 😛

I currently still drink a lot of Tetley tea with milk and sugar (although I am trying to cut sugar out of everything or use less sugar in my coffee and tea) and I really like The Celestial Fruit tea. It is caffeine free so I love winding down with a nice cup of it before bed. I am trying more different teas recently and if you have any suggestions of kinds to try, feel free to share them!

My husband doesn’t drink tea so I normally drink hot chocolate when I want to make something for both him and I. I also drink hot chocolate a lot after being outside in the cold for too long.

I know I mentioned coffee isn’t as relaxing as a nice cup of tea or hot chocolate, but sometimes it can be. Like it always is in the morning while I wake up slowly as I am not a morning person at all. I like can’t deal with life until I have been awake for almost an hour and finished my two cups of coffee. I also love drinking coffee with baked goods once in awhile. I find this to be very enjoyable. I think it comes from my Oma who always has one small cup of coffee with one of her baked goods after her afternoon nap.

#5 Writing
If you follow and read a lot of my blogs you probably already know I love writing. It is one of my favorite things to do and it does help me relax. However, most of the time writing does require work, thoughts and for my brain to actually be well-functioning and that is why it is a bit lower on my list. It is not that I like it less than my other hobbies, it is, in fact, one of my favorite hobbies. Just that because if I am writing a blog post or what have you it does involve some form of brain activity and work so it is not always the most relaxing, although it can be in its own way I think. Sometimes I do write down just my feelings in a journal or a quick journal entry, which is very relaxing.

#6 Watching my favorite movie/tv show
I love relaxing on the couch and/or in my bed cuddled up with my favorite flick on or binge watching my favorite shows or series I am watching at the time. It is one of my favorite hobbies and is great for a distraction if there is too much in my mind going on to sort out yet. I am known for rewatching the same series (currently re watching Heartland for the second time as a refresh before Netflix gets the 10th season. I have watched One Tree Hill series almost twice all the way though and I have watched the first 5 or 6 seasons of the Walking Dead twice.) My favorite movies I have seen a lot of them more than 3-5 times and can basically quote all the lines to my favorite movies.

#7 Video Games
As mentioned many times before on my blog, I am a huge Sim nerd. I love playing the Sims on my laptop. I also have become a bigger Xbox gamer these past few years. I always loved playing video games on my brother’s console or our consoles we shared as children. Some of my favorite games include Zelda, anything Mario related (Mario Kart!) Donkey Kong, Sims (Sims 3 especially) Life Is Strange, hockey games, Borderlands series, The GTA series, Hay Day, Best Fiends, Home Street and tons more. I love video games and phone games. 😃 I never thought I was a huge game nerd and I didn’t play video games all the time growing up, but when I thought about it I am in my own way and have become more of one recently. It is one of my favorite ways to relax and distress.

#8 Coloring
I love to listen to music and color in coloring books. Yes I am 30 and still color in coloring books. I know what you are thinking…A lot of people color in those adult coloring books, but no not just adult coloring books the children ones as well. Currently I have one adult coloring book, a Finding Nemo and a cat coloring book (the cat one is very much for kids and has activities as well as coloring, however it was a dollar so I got it to add to my small collection.) I color a lot in my Finding Nemo coloring book because I adore Finding Nemo and it is more challenging to color in my adult coloring book as I only have crayons right now. I left all my pencil crayons, markers with my scrapbooking and crafts stuff back in Canada and have only recently purchased a couple boxes of crayons. Something else I use to do a lot was color with pencil crayons and then outline the colors with markers of the same color. If that makes sense, but like mentioned I don’t have markers right now. *sad face* I find coloring very relaxing and because I am not very good or enjoy many arts and crafty stuff, this is a perfect way to sit back and relax. Keeps my mind and hands busy. I kind of include it as a fidget or stimming toy as well.

#9 My stuffed animal collection
Though it is very small right now, I love collecting and having stuffed animals. Something about them brings a smile to my face and is very relaxing. Especially the ones that are made of very soft and high-quality material, such as toys made by the TY company.

Something else that probably stems from my childhood. I use to collect and play with stuffed animals a lot as a child. I played make-believe games with them, cuddled them, took them everywhere with me and so on. I preferred them to people and use to think they had real feelings. Cheesy I know! xD

Right now I only have my bedtime care bear (which I do sleep with every night or nap time etc. I call him ‘go to bed bear.’ I swear I am an adult! But adulting is hard so that is why stuffed animals and coffee were invented obviously.) and my three beanie boos made by TY. My bedtime bear, the monkey and penguin beanie boos were given to me as gifts on various occasions by my husband. He plans to buy me more beanie boos to add to my collection in the future. It kinda all started when I pointed out how much I loved the monkey stuffie in the store one day. I believe it was my birthday not long after and he surprised me with the monkey, then the penguin a few months later. He gave me bedtime bear one year for Christmas. I recently purchased a kitty beanie boo with the amazon gift card given to us by my parents for last Christmas. That is my very small, but lovable collection of stuffed animals so far that is growing.

The beanie boos mainly remain on my dresser and whenever I look at them I smile. If I am feeling very anxious I sometimes do take them off the dresser and sit with them as it relaxes me. Their super soft material is really win to feel.

#10 Going for a walk or working out
Though sometimes I need a lot of motivation to work out, something I do a lot when I am feeling restless or very stressed is to go for a walk. Working out can also often help when I am feeling stuck inside and/or restless etc. It is another hobby I enjoy as well with music. 😃 Music can really help inspire me to be more active. I wouldn’t say working out is relaxing, but it can cure restlessness and helps me sleep better etc. I love going for nature walks though or through our quiet neighborhood with my earphones and ipod. I also loved hiking growing up and use to do a lot more of it. I grew up in a very outdoorsy place and really miss it as I do love the outdoors.

#11 Scrapbooking
Scrapbooking is more of a hobby, but it is relaxing as well so I had to put it on my list. 😃 It is lower on the list because it is a hobby I don’t get around to doing enough and currently all my scrapbooking stuff (I have a huge tote full and a couple shoe boxes or anonymous boxes full of scrapbooking kits, stickers, stuff and my pictures, cards, concert tickets etc) is still back in Canada so I haven’t scrapbooked much, actually since I met my husband a few years ago. :/ However, I am the most excited about getting my scrapbooking stuff back than anything else and getting back to doing it more often. It is much like my writing a hobby I let slip for sometime, but need to return too. Haha. My hubby’s dad and step mom got me a colored printer/scanner on my birthday this year and if I can fix it(The printer works perfectly, my laptop is broken because well it’s a long story) it will be so nice to print pictures with and a nice bonus for my scrapbooking hobby. Can’t wait!

#12 Reading
I do enjoy a good book and I read a variety of genres. It is last on my list because I don’t read as much as I would like too and I don’t have many books right now. I need to look into buying more and getting a library membership. I have gotten away from this enjoyable hobby in the last few years and need to implement it back into my life.

Bonus/extra notes: Something I often do while out in public to help me relax and when down time is not an option is I take short bathroom breaks to refocus and get away from whatever I am doing or people. I can go and pour warm water on my face (I would say hot water, but most public bathrooms now have that temperature control bs which I blame stupid people for tbh. *angry face*) or I take a few minutes to listen to a favorite song or two on my ipod. Sometimes I also try concentrating on one spot of where I am sitting or standing to help myself regain focus. Often when I was working or I am in stores I can listen to the background music playing and whatever song it is even if I don’t really listen to it personally or like it, it can often calm me down as well. If I do happen to like or know the song I sing along to the lyrics in my head. (Not out loud of course because I am a horrible singer. Haha)

Well that’s a wrap on some of my favorite relaxing hobbies or things that really help me with my anxiety and stress. What are some of your favorite things you do to relax or helps you relax? Let me know in the comment section!



I am a 30-year-old female living life on the autism spectrum and still trying to find my place in the world. I have other associated disorders or mental illnesses such as OCD, anxiety (generalized and social) and a history of depression to name a few. I love writing and have been writing different styles for as long as I can remember. Like most people who have a strong passion for writing I started writing stories and wrote in a journal in grade school. I remember specifically purchasing my first diary/journal that had a lock with my cousin when I was around 10 year-of-age. I was very excited to start writing in it as it was the first fanciest and most formal writing tool I owned. I think that was when my writing journey really began as I started to write daily. Some of my main goals for this blog is to write about autism, it's associated disorders and my life in hopes to help others. To spread awareness and educate in hopes to end some of the stigmas society has attached to things mental illness and autism. To meet like minded bloggers or be inspired by other writers. Other than that I will post or share anything that is of interest or pops into my head. As I grow older, the more I understand about myself and experience life I find myself wanting to seek a further diagnoses or a reevaluation. That is part of the reason why I am opening a new blog here and the reason for my new found blog name. So I hope you all will join me on my continued journey and new discoveries. My diagnoses are not all who I am so here are some random facts about myself. Some of my hobbies besides writing include music, The Sims 3, Xbox, Netflix, scrapbooking and the outdoors. I have a very strong passion for music. It is like my drug/medicine/obsession and you may catch me from time to time preaching it like a religion. Apologies in advance I am married to a man who is not on the spectrum, but he is as equally as amazing and I am insanely in love with him. Like my rants about my life and music you will also hear a lot about him. I was born and raised in Canada who recently seeked Permanent Residence in the USA, so I am no longer an illegal alien. Although I am still an 'alien' tbh. I say imo and tbh too much. (imo = in my opinion/tbh = to be honest) They are also probably the only two abbreviations you will catch me using as one of my many pet peeves are people who 'typ like dis' The only thing that probably makes me a stereotypical Canadian is my obsession with hockey. I am a very organized person. However, it is normally with things that don't really matter in life such as my files on my computer that are organized in folders, within folders... I often can be perceived as rude at first until you get to know me. I have a huge imagination. Some of my favorite animals are dogs, cats, monkeys, penguins and elephants. I prefer animals to humans tbh. Basically I am another complexed human being like everyone else trying to find her way through life and I welcome you all to my newly found blog. This description is subject to change at anytime as my blog grows, I add more facts about myself or for whatever reason I feel fit. ~ My Authentic Mind

5 thoughts on “Things That Help Me Relax (Revised)

  1. This is a really great list – thank-you for sharing it! It’s so important to have a reliable and diverse set of tools that can help you relax, and I’m so glad that you have found what works for you 😊

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    1. I will have to keep an eye out for Pumpkin spice tea and apple cinnamon. I don’t have a kcup brewer as I still prefer old fashion coffee etc. However I have recently realized with kcups I can open it and pour the grounds or whatever into my coffee maker and make it that way. It works kinda the same, but I am sure challenging to guess how much water to pour in. lol Thanks for the suggestions and comment. 🙂

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